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  • The Power of the Good Shepherd's Presence

    “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will not fear because you are with me…” Psalm 23:4 My middle child is currently my clingy one, holding onto my legs while I make dinner, asking me to accompany her everywhere (including to the bathroom) - “Come with me!” is her constant cry. And it’s easy for me to become irritated at this (“Josie, you can go to the bathroom by yourself!”), but I think her desire speaks to the need in all of us for the presence of one that makes us feel safe and seen. Psalm 23 can feel like a lullaby - it’s beautiful, calming, but also so familiar that it’s easy to miss its meaning. This psalm gives us this picture of God as our Shepherd - providing sustenance, rest, guidance, protection, and blessing. But the heartbeat of the poem is what lies at the very center, with 26 Hebrew words falling before and after it: “for Thou art with me.” The Good Shepherd’s presence is the punch line of this psalm, and this makes everything else in the psalm matter: God is with us - He provides His Presence, His very self. In A Shepherd’s Look at Psalm 23, author Philip Keller discusses how his presence impacted his sheep: “I came to realize that nothing so quieted and reassured the sheep as to see me in the field. The presence of their master and owner and protector put them at ease as nothing else could, and this applied day and night” (25). He then goes on to compare this to our experience as followers of the Good Shepherd: “In the Christian’s life there is no substitute for the keen awareness that our Shepherd is nearby. There is nothing like Christ’s presence to dispel the fear, the panic, the terror of the unknown…His presence in the picture throws a different light on the whole scene” (26). The Presence of the Good Shepherd changes everything. He provides us with everything we need, but the provision of His Presence is what leaves a lasting impact on us, His sheep, settling us and setting us apart from the sheep in any other shepherd’s pasture. And so in light of God being this Good Shepherd who provides His presence, I’m asking myself: what kind of presence am I for my children? How does my presence make them feel? How does it change the atmosphere of my home? How will they remember my presence? And I’m realizing that the extent to which I have been present with the Good Shepherd is the extent to which I will be present in the way I want to be for my children: peaceful, not anxious. Joyful, not despairing. Grateful, not grumbling. Patient, not hurrying. Humble, not haughty. Self-controlled, not angry. Kind, not critical. We must cling to the Good Shepherd so that we can be reassured and refreshed by His presence - only then will our presence bless and benefit our kids in the way we so desire. We must live in the range of His shadow and in reach of His staff, that His Presence might transform the way that we are present in our homes, our marriages, our workplaces, and our world. How our anxious and broken world is desperate for the presence of those who have been marked by the Presence of the Good Shepherd! May we be the clingiest of sheep in the pasture - greedy for the Presence of the Good Shepherd to surround us and transform us. And may our presence mirror His Presence - providing a safe place for our children and blessing them in ways that they will not soon forget.

  • The Good Shepherd's Offer to Us, His Sheep

    “For ‘you were like sheep going astray,’....” (1 Peter 2:25) I see how my kids are like sheep, these little lambs: prone to wander and stray, struggling to obey. Completely dependent on me to provide for them, to guide them, to lead them and love them. And how I wish I could outgrow being a “sheep” - I’m a mom, after all, in charge of these little humans, and I’m mature, right?! 😂 - but the truth is, I am prone to all the same things. I am stubborn and easily afraid, frequently wandering and losing my way. I am easily distracted and sometimes disobedient. And if I’m honest, a lot of the time I have no idea how to lead these little lambs that have been left in my care. And Lent finds us here: wandering like sheep gone astray, weary of winter, trying to find meaning between the joy of the Christmas season and the allure of summer fun. And the Good Shepherd doesn’t leave us here, but holds out His hand, offering to lead the way. Through this season of Lent, He reminds us of who we are and who He is and how He wants to shepherd us, if only we will let Him. He wants to show us we can trust Him completely - this Good Shepherd who carries us and cares deeply, who is always with us, who sees us and knows us and loves us. A Shepherd’s Look at Psalm 23 is this beautiful little book providing a new perspective on the well-known psalm, and it lends us insight into image of us as sheep and God as our Shepherd: “Sheep can, under mismanagement, be the most destructive livestock. In short order they can ruin and ravage land almost beyond remedy. But in bold contrast they can, on the other hand, be the most beneficial of all livestock if properly managed” (119). Author W. Phillip Keller also emphasizes, “Under one man sheep would struggle, starve and suffer endless hardship. In another’s care they would flourish and thrive contentedly” (4). It is only under the Good Shepherd’s care that we will thrive, not just survive. It is only under His care that we will be healthy and whole, leaving a wake of blessing wherever we go - both as mothers and beyond that as women of God. We must make this conscious choice to come under the leadership of the Good Shepherd, recognizing and receiving His provision and guidance and care that we might be properly fit to feed our own lambs, to shepherd the sheep that He has given us to steward for a season. In the following weeks, we will take a look at the Good Shepherd throughout Scripture and consider how we can learn from Him, lean into His guidance and lead our children like He leads us. I pray this series will encourage you and point you to Him as we approach the glory of Easter Morning. “For ‘you were like sheep going astray,’ but now you have returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls” (1 Peter 2:25) - these next weeks of Lent, may we return to our Good Shepherd, allowing Him to shepherd us so that we can learn how to best lead our sheep.

  • Contending for Contentment

    "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Discontentment is an ever-present temptation, a constant threat. It lurks around the corner of every transition and casts a shadow on every season of motherhood. It follows me through every stage and circumstance, tapping me on the shoulder. "The grass is greener on the other side," it whispers. Discontentment perpetuates this scarcity mindset within me, "There's not enough for me." It convinces me that I am a victim and celebrates with me as I throw yet another pity party. Discontentment turns my head in the direction of other moms, encouraging me to compare every part of my life to theirs. It lures my eyes away from what is true and present and real, prompting me to imagine what could be or what would've been. Discontentment is a potent poison and a tactic of the enemy - to steal joy, to kill hope, to destroy abundant life (John 10:10). We must instead contend for contentment - receiving what He has given instead of refusing to "rejoice always." As much as we'd like to think otherwise, true contentment is not a product of circumstance but rather perspective. Contentment is the only way to circumvent our circumstances - allowing us to experience joy and peace despite what what is going on around us. It is the great secret of the Christian mom - that in spite of hardship, weakness, sleep deprivation, limitations, work schedules or physical pain, we could still, somehow, supernaturally, be content and "count it all joy" (James 1:2). For this is God's will for you: not a particular career path or life decision, but to "rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances." The antidote to the poison of discontentment is praise - placing all of our value and worth in Jesus instead of in what this world has to offer. Rejoicing and praying and pressing forward in gratitude despite how we might feel. Praise is the weapon we must wield against the daggers of discontentment. This is going to take practice - it is not going to come naturally to us. Learning contentment is a process as day by day, hour by hour, we learn to depend on Jesus instead of allowing ourselves to be blown and tossed by the waves of our surroundings. It is as Paul shares in his letter to the Philippians: "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength." (Philippians 4:12-13). Paul learned contentment through complete dependence on God and His strength. He encountered many difficult circumstances as he followed Jesus - his contentment was not found in comfort or ease. It was in Paul's lack and weakness that he found contentment, discovering God to be strong enough and sufficient for him. Contentment is something worth contending for - that our children and the world might see the goodness of God through us: our gratitude, our joy, our peace, our contentment in Him. May we find satisfaction in Jesus, even in the struggles that each season of motherhood brings, as we depend fully on Him. And at the end of the day, may be able to say along with Paul: "I can do all this through him who gives me strength."

  • Open Up The Book

    The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever. Isaiah 40:8 The very act of opening your Bible in the morning, for a moment or two or as much time as your little ones allow - it is a simple decision that can change the course of your day, the direction of your gaze. But it can feel so hard in the moment - like swimming upstream, fighting the current. This Book is your very life and breath and daily bread. It is the Source that will sustain you in the mundane of this season. It is the Sword of the Spirit, alive and active, dividing soul and spirit, bone and marrow. Your weapon to wield and words that will heal. It is timely and timeless, eternal and true. Honey on your lips and a light for your path. feels hard. We are busy and bruised and barely making it through the day. Our children are clinging and needing and wanting and we are but one person, trying to hold a home together… The enemy will resist you daily - it will seem that there are a million things that need to be done in that moment when you open the Word of God. Your motivation will wane and your mind will wander and he will do whatever it takes to pull you away. For the sake of yourself and your little ones, stay the course. Open the Book - you need this more than life itself. More than breath. With all that motherhood is pulling out of you, you need to be steeped in this Book of Life - the only words that will stand to the very end. You will find the wisdom, energy and hope for your day there. Just ask Him - you will. Jesus, may your Word be my delight. May I rejoice in your Word. May I read it, sing it, meditate on it day and night. Your Word will never return void, and so whatever time I spend in it will never be wasted. It will produce good and beautiful things in me and through me - more than I could ever dream or imagine. And so may I cling to your Word. What a privilege to own a copy, to be able to open it freely. What a gift - this access to listen, to learn, to linger in your word. May I not take it for granted, but rather take advantage of every opportunity to soak in this gift - the very word of God given to us. "Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law" (Psalm 119:18).

  • Weakness is Your Friend

    "For when you are weak, then you are strong." 2 Corinthians 12:10 The world will call weakness your enemy. In a culture that promotes strength and independence in a variety of forms, we are called to hide our fragility and project an image of perfection and poise. God frames weakness in an entirely different way - as a gift, a friend, a privilege. Weakness is your friend. Your limitations, your hardship, your struggles, your sleeplessness - they are a gift from God. They are handpicked for you - this loving God bestowing brokenness as gift, as grace - “For when you are weak, then you are strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10). Weakness drives you to your knees, on your face before the God who sees. And He responds with gentleness and compassion: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (v. 9). Weakness reminds you where your true treasure lies: in the hope of heaven. It protects you from pride and prevents you from believing that you are self-sufficient. Weakness drives you to your knees, keeps you bending low and depending instead of pretending you have it all under control. Weakness relocates your gaze from the mirror to His eyes. So may we cease fighting against our weaknesses, striving for independence and projecting an image of strength. May we stop despising weakness and start delighting in it. For “God uses the weak things of the world to shame the strong” that we might boast in Him alone (1 Corinthians 1:27). May Christ’s power rest on us to strengthen and shelter us in the midst of our wrestling with weakness. He will not waste any of our weakness as we hand it to Him. We may even begin to see it as it is - friend, not foe.

  • Sleep = Dependence At Its Finest

    In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, LORD, make me dwell in safety. Psalm 4:8 "Sometimes, the most holy thing you can do is take a nap." I heard this in college - it seemed like a somewhat funny saying that carried some truth. A nice quip to share with students once I was working in campus ministry and teaching them how to rest and take a Sabbath. And then, I became a mom and my world turned upside down. As my firstborn entered the scene, I resisted sleep. I wanted to maintain what I had pre-kids - free time, time with my husband, a clean home and a workout routine. And so whenever my baby slept, I remained wide-eyed, frantically trying to finish the tasks I so desperately wanted to complete. And I was left drained, sleep-deprived, desperate for control. I was a shell of myself and a "mom-bie" if there ever was one. I am realizing even as I write this that my sleep strike originated in stubbornness and pride. I was refusing to submit to the season of life that the Lord had me in, resisting His will and His way. And so, I suffered for it - physically, relationally, spiritually - because I was beyond tired for months at a time, if not years. With each baby I've done a little bit better - taking naps, going to bed early, realizing that the need for sleep is innate and relinquishing my fight against God's design of our bodies. My sleep journey has been one of learning dependence - day by day learning to surrender my schedule for the sake of rest, for the sake of remaining healthy and living in the shalom God intended for me. "Sometimes, the most holy thing you can do is take a nap." I can now declare: this statement is true. It is revolutionary and life-changing as a mom. The choice to sleep can be total surrender, a sacrifice offered to God. This is what the decision to sleep communicates to God: "I am dependent on you, God. I cease my working and my striving. I choose to live within my limits - this body that binds me and needs to rest. I release my burdens and worries, leaving my life to You while I sleep." Sleep is dependence at its finest - complete and total surrender. In a culture where we crave control, where we pride ourselves on our productivity, we must resist the idols of independence and self-sufficiency. We must shut down our devices, shut our eyes, and shut out the world - this can be the most holy and humble choice of all. Will you join me in depending on God with your sleep schedule today?

  • Why I Need My Kids

    And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. 2 Corinthians 3:18 Motherhood has been like a mirror for my soul, revealing what truly resides in my heart. It has shaken me and stretched me beyond myself, forcing my sin and shortcomings to bubble up to the surface. My kids are the cutest little vessels by which the Lord has chosen to sanctify me. I've realized along the journey of motherhood that I am desperate for this sanctification that Jesus works in me through my kids. I might even need my kids more than they need me... -I need my kids to interrupt me - to remind me that my time is not my own, and that sometimes interruptions are God's intervention. -I need them to splatter food on the walls and spill milk on the floor so that I remember that all of this is temporary, and this world is not my home. -I need my kids to drive me crazy, forcing me to reckon with my own impatience, anger, and lack of self-control. -I need them to wake me up at night and rise early in the morning to remind me that it is God who grants sleep and sustains me. -I need them to slow me down, to cure me of my tendency to hurry so that I notice the people and things that the Lord has placed in my path. -I need them to pull my hair and climb all over me and spit up on my clothes to humble me and protect me from my pride. -I need my kids to drive me to my knees over and over again so I won't forget my dependence on the Lord, my inability to do motherhood on my own. I've realized that what I desire isn't necessarily what I need. What I desire is "peace" and quiet, more time alone, the next season or stage, or a different schedule. What I need is more time with the Lord, a thankful heart, an eternal perspective, and daily dependence on the Lord in the midst of the chaos. Jesus satisfies my deepest desires when I come to Him instead of fighting for my own superficial wants/"needs." I thank God for these girls who are forcing me to loosen my grip on all the things that don't really matter and are aiding me in my growth from glory to glory. The Holy Spirit will not waste this season - He is forming us into the image of Jesus with every interaction we have with our children. May we turn to Him in this hard and holy work and allow Him to use our children to shape and mold us. How we need Him (and our kids!) to sanctify us through and through!

  • Dependence Changes Everything....

    If dependence is the ultimate goal in all things, then everything changes. Anything that causes us to depend becomes our friend. The many sacrifices of motherhood. Hard seasons in marriage. Difficult in-laws. Working. Resting. Friendships. Health conditions. Finances. Burdens become blessings because they drive us to our knees and to the Father. Weaknesses are welcomed because they remind us that we are needy, they keep us relying on Him for all things. We see our lives through a new lens when we desire dependence: we are grateful even for the hardships we once despised. We are able to accept what God has given, trusting that He knows what is best and will carry us through. Trusting that is more blessed to walk in dependence than in self-reliance. If we are desperate for dependence, for more of Jesus....everything changes. Motherhood involves less sulking and more surrender. Marriage becomes more about serving than selfishness. We are more concerned with intimacy with the Father than self-sufficiency. So may dependence be our new definition of success. May it be the highest goal, our deepest desire, our greatest prize - and may it truly change everything as we walk in weakness and depend on Jesus for all things.

  • Rethinking Resolutions in 2024

    There’s a fresh surge of self-sufficiency rising up around this time of year. The subtle lies snake their way across screens and into souls: “This is your year!” “You can do anything!” Disguised as resolutions is this rush of self-reliance; this desire to do it all, perform, perfect and achieve. I convince myself we are going to have the healthiest, most fun, family-oriented, God-centered year EVER. And I’m going to be the best mom EVER this year ;) It seems innocent and noble enough. But with each resolution on my list, my heart drifts from dependence on God and I start to feel in a way…invincible. Self-sufficient. It’s exhilarating - this illusion that I am in control. And it leaves me making plans without praying. Making lists without listening to God. Making goals without considering my soul. Making resolutions without releasing my desires. This year, I’m trying something different - rethinking my resolutions, reordering the process and relinquishing control. I’m going to pray before I make any plans. I’m going to delay the lists and goals and start by bending my knees, depending and surrendering, asking God this question: “What do you have for me in 2024?” And I’m going to actually take the time to sit and listen and be with God as we start this year. I’m intrigued and hesitant and frightened and excited all at the same time - but I'm expecting God to speak! I'd love for you to join me! How I'm processing the old & new as we start the year: Perceive Ask God: How do you perceive my past year? Ask yourself: How did I grow in 2023? What did I grieve last year (tangible or intangible - loss, transition, unmet expectations, unfulfilled desires)? Receive Ask God: What do you have for me in 2024? Ask yourself: What do I need to release so that I can receive what God has for me? (expectations, uses of time/money/energy, dreams, desires, plans) Believe Ask God: What dreams do you want to conceive in my heart in the coming year? Ask yourself: What am I believing God for in 2024?

  • Receiving the Present

    “But Mary treasured up all of these things and pondered them in her heart.” Luke 2:19 It would’ve been easy for Mary to cower in fear as she nurtured baby Jesus - he was in danger from day one when Herod learned of his birth and desired to rid the earth of him. His death had been prophesied about centuries prior, and the future held many unknowns for Mary and Joseph as they welcomed Jesus into the world. And yet in the midst of recovery and uncertainty and worshippers, we find this verse cradled in Luke 2:19: “But Mary treasured up all of these things and pondered them in her heart.” We find Mary pondering the present moment - the visitors, the silence of her sleeping newborn, his gaze and growing body, his miraculous presence. She received the gift of time - trusting God enough to savor the moments she was given with Jesus. In treasuring her time, Mary treasured God himself - His gifts, His goodness, the wonder of it all. Mary beheld the face of her baby boy and her season of motherhood, and in doing so she beheld the face of God. I'm often so tempted to rush through life, always looking to the next big thing rather than receiving the present moment: the time that God is gifting me with Him and those around me. Often I find myself scrolling instead of beholding - spending time on screens instead of abiding in Jesus. I find myself worrying and hurrying instead of resting in God and enjoying my children. I find myself trying to force the memories instead of treasuring what is already happening: the abundance God is handing me as I resist and refuse. In this world of hustle, we can take back our time through treasuring - storing up moments like fireflies in a jar. Through treasuring, simple moments become sacred. We discover God’s beauty in our children’s faces, their eyes aglow with wonder at the world around them. We sense His presence even in the midst of the mundane and the daily duties. And our eyes grow wide in wonder, too, as we press into the present moment and His presence. We exchange comparison and regret for remembrance and awe. May Jesus turn our eyes towards heaven this Christmas and help us to pause and ponder all that He is and all that He has given. And as we treasure Jesus, may there be a trickle down effect that allows us to treasure all else that is good and beautiful - the miracle of motherhood and life itself. Ask yourself: How are you receiving the time God has given you? When you have time to fill, what is your go-to distraction? What is something you want to treasure and remember about your current season of motherhood? Action step: Sometime between now and the New Year, turn off your phone for 24 hours to practice treasuring your time! (I'm already trying to think of excuses to keep my phone on and around...but I know it will be worth it to unplug!)

  • Receiving Your People

    "Mary stayed with Elizabeth for about three months and then returned home." (Luke 1:56) God did not send Mary into motherhood alone. He gave her the gift of spending time with Elizabeth, her cousin (pregnant with the baby whom we know as John the Baptist), as the two embarked on their miraculous journeys of motherhood. He orchestrated the timing of Mary and Elizabeth's pregnancies so that these two mamas could share three months together as they prepared to deliver two extraordinary baby boys into the world. Though separated by age, life experience, and distance, they held motherhood in common and this bonded them together in a beautiful way. I have no doubt they laughed together. They cried together. They prayed together. They processed together. They dreamed together. They encouraged one another. They considered who their babies would become and they commiserated over pregnancy symptoms. They confided hopes and fears in one another. How beautiful that God did not leave Mary and Elizabeth in isolation as they navigated pregnancy and prepared to welcome their babies into the world. His heart was for them to do motherhood in community, as it is for us. God did not intend motherhood to be a solo sport! And so we must be intentional in receiving “our people” - those God has placed around us to be our "running buddies" in the marathon of motherhood. It is wonderful and necessary to have mentor mamas to look up to - to receive their wisdom and learn what motherhood looks like in the season ahead. It is good to share advice and encouragement with those who are one step behind us on their motherhood journeys. But to share life with another mama in your season, to crawl through the trenches together - that is a gift from God; a true grace and treasure. We must resist the urge to run alone in the name of ease or busy-ness or being an "independent spirit." There are some blessings we will never receive until we learn to lean into community, depending daily on Jesus and others. God wants to build us up, encourage us, strengthen us and give us fullness of joy, and I believe he uses community as a conduit of these blessings. My prayer is that we would learn to live in dependence as we receive the mamas that God has placed in our lives for this season. May God grant each one of us the gift of a Mary-Elizabeth friendship in our season of motherhood. And may we not take that friend for granted, but may we bless her and build her up as we march this marathon together. Ask yourself: Do you have a Mary-Elizabeth friend in your current season of motherhood? How can you bless her this Christmas? How can you further cultivate community in your daily life, depending more deeply on your people? Action step: Invite a friend along to run an errand, wrap gifts or help you do a house project. Why do alone what you could do together?

  • Receiving God's Promises

    "Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!" Luke 1:45 The promise of all promises is where the Christmas story really begins: a Savior would come! God would send a Messiah! He gave this promise as a gift to His people long before Mary walked the earth, and they clung to this promise through hardship and years of waiting. But this promise of old became very personal for Mary because SHE was the one through whom the promise would be fulfilled - the chosen mother of the Messiah. It was no longer a distant promise or one meant for another virgin - it was her promise. This promise was costly: it could get Mary killed under claims of adultery. It could come between her and her future husband. It would change the course of her life. And Mary's initial response? "I am the Lord's servant...May your word to me be fulfilled" (Luke 1:38). Mary did not run. She did not resist or refuse. Rather, she released her own plans and dreams. In humility, she received the inconceivable words of God that were still ringing in her ears. She believed that this promise given to God's people generations before was also personal to her. And as Mary greeted her cousin, Elizabeth exclaimed: "Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!" (Luke 1:45). In her belief, Mary was blessed - with joy, with peace, with the privilege of carrying the promised Messiah. I don't always receive the promises of God like Mary did. I sometimes distance myself from His promises, finding them easier to believe for others than for myself. I sometimes run away from them, trying to find my identity in places other than God and His Word. And so when I look at Mary, I find myself I trust God enough to allow His promises to become personal to me? Do I believe Him when He tells me who I am, who He is, the hope that I have in Him? Do I receive these things for myself or resist them? God promises us many things in His Word: Peace (Isaiah 26:3, Philippians 4:7, John 14:27) Joy (1 Peter 1:8-9) Power (2 Timothy 1:7) We are never alone (Psalm 23:4) We will not be shaken (Psalm 125:1) Life to the full (John 10:10) Fruitfulness (John 15:5) Strength (Psalm 46:1-3) Rest (Matthew 11:28-29) Guidance (Isaiah 40:11, John 14:26) Provision (Genesis 22:14) Freedom (2 Corinthians 3:17) Purpose in all things (Romans 8:28, Psalm 139) The Holy Spirit as our seal and deposit (Ephesians 1:13-14) Intercession on our behalf (Romans 8:26-27;34) Justification (Romans 5:9) Identity as a child of God (Romans 8:16-17) Wisdom (Proverbs 2:6, James 1:5) Removal of our sins (Psalm 103:12) Enduring Love (Psalm 136:1) Eternal Life (1 Peter 1:3-4, Revelation 22:12) These promises (and exceedingly and abundantly more!) are what God wants to give us through Christmas, through Jesus. He wants these promises to permeate our hearts as we journey through motherhood and life. The one thing these promises hinge on is TRUST. Belief. Dependence on Jesus. God's character remains unchanged whether we believe Him or not, but we will only receive all that He wants to give us when we trust in Him, depending daily and deeply on Jesus. May we receive God's promises this Christmas - I believe that we will be blessed as we do so, just as Mary was. Ask yourself: Is it difficult for you to believe the promises of God for yourself? Why or why not? Which promise of God feels the most distant from you in this season? Action step: Find a verse to remind yourself that the promise that feels most distant is personal to YOU. Put it somewhere you will see it often (in the car, by the kitchen sink, or on your bathroom mirror).

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